How Tiny Shifts Can Make A Big Difference

Do you ever find yourself saying:

I never get what I want! 
I’m so sad.
How do I make things happen in my life the way I want?

Well, the short answer to those questions is: you need to think better thoughts. 

I know, that’s not a very satisfying answer, is it? 

But let me explain: Our thoughts are powerful. They have energy, positive or negative. 

When a negative thought is flashing in our mind, we are putting out a negative vibe. The Law of Attraction (LOA) is very obedient and will match or reflect what you're “vibrating” (feeling) every single time, no exceptions. 

Like attracts like. So if you want to feel good, you have to put out a “good feeling” vibe. 

But when you say you don’t have a “good-feeling” vibe and instead you're feeling sad, mad, lonely, stressed, etc., where do you start? How do you get from sad to happy? 

You do this in shifts. Even the smallest shift is a move in the right direction.

Picture this: you are feeling sad, life is sucking big time and you're lost. You want to feel better, but you don’t know how.  

Here’s what you should do: stop and look around. Look at what is right. Then appreciate it. I’m talking full-out, appreciating the crap out of it. Do you have a bed to sleep in? Do you have a favorite shirt? Do you have people in your life that you love? Did you find a penny today? Is the sun shining? Did you have a cup of coffee today? Think of the smallest things and love on them.

When you show appreciation for anything and everything, you are putting out a vibration of gratitude. This is where the LOA comes in. Remember, I told you the LOA is very obedient, so it will match that feeling of gratitude. It will bring you representations of things to feel gratitude for. It has to, it’s the law

Start with your gratitude list. Once you start, you will see how much you have to be grateful for. This is the first step in shifting from a negative vibe to a more positive one. Do this everyday.

What are you telling yourself? The power behind your words.

Mantras and affirmations can change our lives. Or, at the very least, change the way we think about something.  

If you've done self-help work, personal development or spiritual work, you know what I’m talking about.

Phrases and affirmations like, “I’m a strong and vibrant person” or “I am peaceful and calm” help us take root in a new way of thinking.

But could repeating affirmations over and over again actually hinder us?

Here’s the thing, when a mantra is grounded in positivity, yes, it can be powerful and helpful. But what happens when our affirmations are rooted in a belief that may not necessary serve us? And those affirmations are repeated again and again?

For example, what if you have a belief that you will never get over a death that has occurred.

You tell yourself “I will never get over this,” and then well-intended friends and family say to you “I don’t know how you’ll get over this.”

What do you think will happen?

Chances are you will never get over it. Now, I am not saying we ever truly “get over” a death, but we can learn to integrate it in our lives. The way I see it is, the day we learned of a death or the devastating news that changed our lives forever, is the day that a humongous heavy rock was placed on our backs. And although we can never get it off our backs, we can get stronger to carry it.

Let’s the change the mantra to, “I am getting stronger everyday” or “I am healing” or “I will heal completely” and have that repeated back to us.

“You are healing and every day and you are closer than you were before.”  

Our most powerful words, over any, are the words we tell ourselves. What we say does make a big difference.  

If you want to heal, start by becoming more aware of what you tell yourself and by being conscious of what you believe your truth to be.

The Secret Behind Getting What You Want

"I want it, and I want it NOW!"

If only that was how it worked.

The truth is, we don’t get what we want. We get what we are. 

Say what? What does that mean? 

You’ve heard about this Law of Attraction stuff and you thought all you had to do was want stuff. Like, it is some magical power and “poof!” all your wants are delivered to you. 

Yeah, sorry, it doesn’t work that way. If it did, you would already have everything you've always wanted.

Let’s pretend for a minute. You want a bag full of money and you want it filled with hundreds of dollar bills. Nope, wait a minute! You want it filled with zillion dollar bills. (I mean, let’s go hog wild since we’re pretending after all.)

So now that you have this big delicious bag of money, how are you feeling about it? Happy? Cool. But what does happy mean to you? What does that feel like? Why do you think that big ole bag of money makes you feel happy? What is it representing something to you? The bag of money by itself is just a bag of money, so it has to represent something to you. 

I’m guessing it represents the feeling (vibration) of relief and freedom.

In order for the Universe to bring that to you, you must vibrate what relief and freedom feel like. So how do you do that? Imagine being able to buy anything you want and you never have to look at the price tag. Imagine the feeling of being able to go anywhere and taking anyone with you because the cost is not a problem. Imagine having the freedom of doing what you want, whether it’s staying home with your kids and buying a pony. 

Are you feeling that? Say hello to relief and freedom.

It’s the vibration of what you want that brings it to you, not the want itself. 

When you align with the feeling of what you want and allow it to come to you (receiving), it has no choice but to come to you.

Here’s the catch…the secret, if you will. 

When something shows up and it feels like relief or freedom, acknowledge it. Even if it wasn’t exactly what you thought it would be, acknowledge it. 

If you poop on it you just sent out a vibration of, “What the hell universe?! That’s not a bag full of money.” 

Rule number one: don’t poop on your manifestations! 

For example, let’s say relief and freedom showed up this way: You got a discount on something when you didn’t expect it, or you were told you have the afternoon off with pay. This is your manifestation! Relief and freedom have arrived.

Just because it didn’t show up in the way you thought it would doesn’t mean it’s not working. Give gratitude, keep practicing and look for what is working and celebrate that.  

This can be done for anything you want: a partner, weight loss, your dream job, financial freedom…it works for everything and for everyone, every time.  

What does ‘what you want’ represent? (I’m talking about feelings here). Put it out to the universe and graciously accept what shows up. Write down the proof (this will give you more of it). 

Keep practicing, tweak it and repeat.