What are you telling yourself? The power behind your words.

Mantras and affirmations can change our lives. Or, at the very least, change the way we think about something.  

If you've done self-help work, personal development or spiritual work, you know what I’m talking about.

Phrases and affirmations like, “I’m a strong and vibrant person” or “I am peaceful and calm” help us take root in a new way of thinking.

But could repeating affirmations over and over again actually hinder us?

Here’s the thing, when a mantra is grounded in positivity, yes, it can be powerful and helpful. But what happens when our affirmations are rooted in a belief that may not necessary serve us? And those affirmations are repeated again and again?

For example, what if you have a belief that you will never get over a death that has occurred.

You tell yourself “I will never get over this,” and then well-intended friends and family say to you “I don’t know how you’ll get over this.”

What do you think will happen?

Chances are you will never get over it. Now, I am not saying we ever truly “get over” a death, but we can learn to integrate it in our lives. The way I see it is, the day we learned of a death or the devastating news that changed our lives forever, is the day that a humongous heavy rock was placed on our backs. And although we can never get it off our backs, we can get stronger to carry it.

Let’s the change the mantra to, “I am getting stronger everyday” or “I am healing” or “I will heal completely” and have that repeated back to us.

“You are healing and every day and you are closer than you were before.”  

Our most powerful words, over any, are the words we tell ourselves. What we say does make a big difference.  

If you want to heal, start by becoming more aware of what you tell yourself and by being conscious of what you believe your truth to be.

The Secret Behind Getting What You Want

"I want it, and I want it NOW!"

If only that was how it worked.

The truth is, we don’t get what we want. We get what we are. 

Say what? What does that mean? 

You’ve heard about this Law of Attraction stuff and you thought all you had to do was want stuff. Like, it is some magical power and “poof!” all your wants are delivered to you. 

Yeah, sorry, it doesn’t work that way. If it did, you would already have everything you've always wanted.

Let’s pretend for a minute. You want a bag full of money and you want it filled with hundreds of dollar bills. Nope, wait a minute! You want it filled with zillion dollar bills. (I mean, let’s go hog wild since we’re pretending after all.)

So now that you have this big delicious bag of money, how are you feeling about it? Happy? Cool. But what does happy mean to you? What does that feel like? Why do you think that big ole bag of money makes you feel happy? What is it representing something to you? The bag of money by itself is just a bag of money, so it has to represent something to you. 

I’m guessing it represents the feeling (vibration) of relief and freedom.

In order for the Universe to bring that to you, you must vibrate what relief and freedom feel like. So how do you do that? Imagine being able to buy anything you want and you never have to look at the price tag. Imagine the feeling of being able to go anywhere and taking anyone with you because the cost is not a problem. Imagine having the freedom of doing what you want, whether it’s staying home with your kids and buying a pony. 

Are you feeling that? Say hello to relief and freedom.

It’s the vibration of what you want that brings it to you, not the want itself. 

When you align with the feeling of what you want and allow it to come to you (receiving), it has no choice but to come to you.

Here’s the catch…the secret, if you will. 

When something shows up and it feels like relief or freedom, acknowledge it. Even if it wasn’t exactly what you thought it would be, acknowledge it. 

If you poop on it you just sent out a vibration of, “What the hell universe?! That’s not a bag full of money.” 

Rule number one: don’t poop on your manifestations! 

For example, let’s say relief and freedom showed up this way: You got a discount on something when you didn’t expect it, or you were told you have the afternoon off with pay. This is your manifestation! Relief and freedom have arrived.

Just because it didn’t show up in the way you thought it would doesn’t mean it’s not working. Give gratitude, keep practicing and look for what is working and celebrate that.  

This can be done for anything you want: a partner, weight loss, your dream job, financial freedom…it works for everything and for everyone, every time.  

What does ‘what you want’ represent? (I’m talking about feelings here). Put it out to the universe and graciously accept what shows up. Write down the proof (this will give you more of it). 

Keep practicing, tweak it and repeat.  

The Gift of Choice



Such a simple concept, but it’s not easy to execute everyday or every time.

Everything is a choice. This is a concept that you need to understand. 

I’m talking about one of the laws of the universe. And this is the Law of Polarity. 

There is no outside of the house, if there is no inside. There is no top, if there is no bottom. You can’t have a left side, if there is no right side. There is no front, if there is no back. 

You get what I am saying. 

So understand, you can’t have bad without good. We get both: top/bottom, good/bad. 

“Nothing is good or bad except our thinking will make it so.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you’re not 100% sure of either outcome, then it’s simply both. What is left in the center is what it is. You get to choose how you think about it. 

Let’s talk about losing weight, for example. 

You may think that it is going to be hard. Are you 100% sure that it will be hard? I mean, one-hundred-percent-not-a-chance that it will not be hard? You can’t be 100% sure it will be that way, so let’s say your answer is, “No.”

Are you sure it is going to be easy? Again are you 100% sure it will be easy? Probably not. So either way, you’re not 100% sure. 

Now it’s time to choose. 

One thought will lead you to your desire of losing weight and the other thought will not. 

Why not choose the thought that feels better? 

It all comes down to choice. 

It may be a difficult choice that you are dealing with, a difficult person or a difficult circumstance. But understand you have the power! You can’t control the situations or circumstances, but you can certainly control how you deal with them. 

Our thoughts are very powerful, choose them carefully.